As I had planned to write this blog post to commemorate my father’s 10-year death anniversary (April 13th) and all that has happened in those years, I received a call on Monday morning at work. It was my mom who let me know that my uncle had unexpectedly passed away to COVID.
How can there be harm behind a practice that intends to support healing and growth? If you've experienced trauma, grief or loss this may resonate with you and if you are someone who recommends it to others there may be some things to unpack before you do.
I wish I could say that there is a recipe to healing and enjoying the holidays without those you love who should be with you.
The day before my procedure was the toughest for me. I was so emotionally drained from all of the back and forth (travelling downtown, medication changes, waiting to find out when the procedure day would be).
I honestly was a bit upset hearing this, that I had to adapt and go through a new change.
Never would I have imagined myself writing a blog post on my journey starting IVF and freezing my eggs.
We continue our month long series highlighting the grief and healing journeys of women in the GGH community. This weeks piece is written by Victoria
We continue our month long series highlighting the grief and healing journeys of women in the GGH community. This weeks piece is written by Alison.
We continue our month long series highlighting the grief and healing journeys of women in the GGH community. This weeks piece is written by Irish.
Trigger Warning: The following blog post discusses themes around suicide including loss by suicide, suicidal ideation and supporting a partner with suicidal thoughts. If you are aware that these topics may be triggering for you there are other places on the website that you can read through while you are working on your healing. If you are reading this and it becomes triggering for you I encourage you to reach out to someone you trust to share your feelings and participate in self care. If you are unsure on how to do this or would like more resources please reach out to GGH.
“Are you dating anyone?” “So, any boys?” “ Well why not, what’s wrong with you?” “Did you hear that ___ is getting married? “Isn’t she younger than you?”
I don’t think that for me, I could have reached this point in my journey sooner.
Trigger warning: Some tv shows and movies mentioned are not for a younger audience. There are themes of death, terminal illness and loss throughout (please use discretion - read up on the ones you are interested in before watching). If you ever feel uncomfortable watching any of these movies or shows, listen to your body - you may not be emotionally and mentally ready at this point in your journey to take in this content (and this is totally okay!) .
A lot of the grief I’ve talked about and personal experiences I’ve shared have been mainly around the death of a significant person/people in my life.
I’ve had 3 significant relationships in my mid to late twenties (and counting). The latest one being a bit freshola so I’m going to share more of my lessons learned than the juicy details which are still a bit sensitive.
Aside from my own experiences, I genuinely feel that dating in your early twenties is generally a learning and growing experience to say the least.
Looking back on my late teens while my dad was sick, my mom was his caregiver and my siblings and I were getting accustomed to a new normal I realized that in all of my choices outside of home all I wanted was to be normal (so badly).
For the last 2+ years I’ve been to 6 month follow up check ups at the hospital I had my surgery at. If you or any of your loved ones went through a surgery to remove a mass - you know the drill (mentally, emotionally and physically).
A month later, I celebrated my 25th birthday. I refused to let this birthday go by without seeing my friends and celebrating with the people who checked in on me, called/texted, stopped by and invested in me and my health journey for the last 2 months.
Just when I thought I had caught a break, had started accepting my losses and working toward starting my career…