When I began my grief journey, I had initially spent years feeling reluctant to ask for help and was closed off to everyone and not receptive to help from those who were reaching out.
For some reason, it was easier for me to order a book online for support than to tell a friend I had been really struggling with my losses and was stuck in sleepless, sadness filled days. It wasn't until the last few years where I began communicating about my loss with friends, family and a therapist and began asking for help on darker days when I needed it . Before then, I was constantly searching for things to connect to. I towered self help books beside my bed which stood in replacement of a night table.
If you’re not ready to reach out for help, know that it’s ok. A textbook answer for what the grief stages are and how long you’ll be in each doesn’t exist.
If you’re beginning your grief journey, self help books are a great way to start the healing process. Here are a few of my favourites that I discovered back when I was right where you are in your journey:
The OGs that have been with me from the beginning
dream journal: a guided place to record and reflect